A New Year of Exploring Religious Authoritarian Parenting

Continuing to explore the impacts of RAP

A New Year of Exploring Religious Authoritarian Parenting

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Hello everyone! We know that so many of you are holding dread, fear and sadness as inauguration day looms heavy. We hope you’re taking care of yourself and loved ones during this tough time. We believe that care, nervous-system regulation and community are antidotes to authoritarianism, and hope that you find ways to nurture yourself this month.

We took some time off over the holidays from thinking about religious authoritarian parenting. It’s been some much-needed rest after publishing fourteen chapters on the topic — and that excludes a handful of other posts and several podcast episodes. We’ve been intentional about taking a mental break from this project, both to come back with fresh eyes, and simply because rest is important!

we went to the Oregon coast for some stormy weather and sea air.

After catching our breath, we’re taking the rest of the month off to continue to prioritize our mental health and to work on upcoming chapters. There’s still a lot to cover, as we haven’t yet talked much about neurodivergence or sexual and gender diversity, among other important topics related to growing up with religious authoritarian parenting.

Thank you so much for your support and engagement with this non-traditional publishing project. We’re excited for continuing this conversation this year (and that is saying something, considering the heavy nature of the topics we cover). 

We’d love for you to leave a comment or email (scroll down to the end for that info) about what you think we should cover in the new year. And while we work on new content, make sure to check out the chapters and podcast episodes we published in 2024:

Chapter 1: What is Religious Authoritarian Parenting?

Chapter 2: Under Pressure: What is it like to be child in a Religious Authoritarian home?

Chapter 3: The Beginnings of the Religious Authoritarian Parenting Movement: How the 1960s and social progress movements sparked a long-term backlash that continues on to the present day.

Chapter 4: The Promises of Religious Authoritarian Parenting: What did Religious Authoritarian Parenting experts promise?

Chapter 4: Children as Casualties of the Culture War: What happens to a person when their childhood becomes a battlefield?1

Chapter 5: Blame the Rebellion on Mr. Rogers : On Dr. Dobson, Fred Rogers, and how emotional intelligence changes everything

Chapter 6: The Political Threat of Toddlers: On the importance of developing Autonomy vs. Shame & Self-Doubt

Chapter 7: Adolescence and the Illusion of Choice: Looking for both Self-Expression and Belonging

Chapter 8: Children of the Positive Eugenics Movement: The hidden roots of white evangelical parenting manuals

Chapter 9: This Hurts Me More than it Hurts You: How Christian Parenting became Synonymous with Corporal Punishment

Chapter 10: Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child: The State of Corporal Punishment in the U.S.

Chapter 11: Focus on the Fascist Family: On the connection between authoritarian parenting methods and authoritarian movements in Germany and beyond

Chapter 12: Estrangement in Religious Authoritarian Families: a predictable outcome of authoritarian parenting practices and enmeshed families, not a "trend" 

Chapter 13: Setting Boundaries in a Religious Authoritarian Family: Setting boundaries in an enmeshed family is always an uphill battle

And here are the podcast episodes we’ve put out last year:

Send this Episode to Your Therapist

Send this Episode to Your Therapist Part 2

Krispin's Story

DL's Story

Corporal Punishment and Brain Development (With Tori Williams Douglass) 

How Do You Set a Boundary in a Family Like this?

Krispin's Story of Estrangement

What should we cover in the coming year?

As we consider what to tackle next regarding religious authoritarian parenting, we’d love to hear from you as we strive to make this project survivor-centric:

What would you like us to address that we haven’t yet?

What are aspects or impacts of religious authoritarian parenting that don’t get enough air time?

Are there any topics that we’ve touched on that need more attention or a deeper dive?

Are there any questions you have about the history of this movement?

Leave a comment below or shoot us an email at strongwilledproject@gmail.com


STRONGWILLED is a reader-supported publication. Thank you to everyone who has supported this publication and enabled it to exist. If you appreciate our work, please consider subscribing, sharing, or financially supporting this survivor-centric project.


  1. Whoops, Krispin mis-numbered this one, so we have two chapters 4’s.